In this day and age, not all bullying is done in person. Often it is done online or on social media. And often it is done at school and even work. I was surprised by how many adult bullies you can find at work.
Dealing with a bully can be tough, but if you try a few of these strategies, it can become a lot easier!
A bully gets momentum and strength from upsetting you
I don’t really understand why, but a bully definitely gets something out of hurting you. Somehow it makes them feel better. Isn’t that sad? Think about it for a minute. They can only feel better about themselves when they hurt you or tear you down.
Just knowing that should take away much of the power of a bully. A person who is bullying anyone says more about the bully than it does about the victim.
I have dealt with bullies since my childhood. Running into the house crying, I would sit on my moms lap and tell her about the latest encounters with the neighborhood bully. I wasn’t hurt physically, but the emotional pain stung deep.
My mom would tell me “You shouldn’t care what those mean boys say to you or about you.” But it hurt. It hurt a lot. Mom taught me to avoid the bullies whenever I could. And to ignore them when they were hurting my feelings.
Decide ahead of time how you will react to a bully
A wonderful way to handle a bully is to have a plan. Figure out ahead of time how you will react. Will you ignore the bully? Or will you leave the area? Will you confront the bully?
I have come a long way since my “bus riding getting bullied days”! And it’s a lot harder to get a rise out of me than it was back then. Try to bully me now and you might get laughed at in your face, and then I will walk away shaking my head as I think how pathetic and miserable it must be to be the person trying to hurt me.
I still see some of those childhood bullies 40 years later. Not much has changed, they are still miserable as ever. I actually feel sorry for those people now.
Brooks Gibbs has a wonderful video showing how to disarm a bully
This video is fun and informative! Brooks gives examples of how to disarm the bully but not letting the bully get to you. How to stop a bully