How to Deal With a Bully

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Bully

In this day and age, not all bullying is done in person.  Often it is done online or on social media. And often it is done at school and even work.  I was surprised by how many adult bullies you can find at work.

Dealing with a bully can be tough, but if you try a few of these strategies, it can become a lot easier!

A bully gets momentum and strength from upsetting you

I don’t really understand why, but a bully definitely gets something out of hurting you.  Somehow it makes them feel better.  Isn’t that sad?  Think about it for a minute.  They can only feel better about themselves when they hurt you or tear you down.

Just knowing that should take away much of the power of a bully.  A person who is bullying anyone says more about the bully than it does about the victim.

I have dealt with bullies since my childhood.  Running into the house crying, I would sit on my moms lap and tell her about the latest encounters with the neighborhood bully.  I wasn’t hurt physically, but the emotional pain stung deep.

My mom would tell me “You shouldn’t care what those mean boys say to you or about you.”  But it hurt.  It hurt a lot.  Mom taught me to avoid the bullies whenever I could.  And to ignore them when they were hurting my feelings.

Decide ahead of time how you will react to a bully

A wonderful way to handle a bully is to have a plan.  Figure out ahead of time how you will react.  Will you ignore the bully?  Or will you leave the area?  Will you confront the bully?

I have come a long way since my “bus riding getting bullied days”!  And it’s a lot harder to get a rise out of me than it was back then.  Try to bully me now and you might get laughed at in your face, and then I will walk away shaking my head as I think how pathetic and miserable it must be to be the person trying to hurt me.

I still see some of those childhood bullies 40 years later.  Not much has changed, they are still miserable as ever.  I actually feel sorry for those people now.

Brooks Gibbs has a wonderful video showing how to disarm a bully

This video is fun and informative!  Brooks gives examples of how to disarm the bully but not letting the bully get to you.  How to stop a bully

 

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The Biggest Time Saver

What is the biggest time saver tip?

Time is one of the most precious resources we have.  And like it or not, every single one of us is given only 24 hours in a day.  How you choose to use that time will determine how much time you have for other important activities, like sleeping, working, playing and spending time with family and friends.

So how do you save time?  Well, if you have the resources, you could delegate out some of your duties.  Unfortunately, most of us don’t have the ability to hire someone for that kind of help.  Fortunately, you are probably wasting precious time every day and you don’t even realize it…

Have you ever lost your keys?  And how long did you look for them?  A minute or two?  Or maybe it took you 20 minutes or worse, and hour and a half to find them!  No judgement here, I used to have the same problem.

The biggest time saver is simply:   A place for everything!

Must of us have heard the old expression “a place for everything, and everything in it’s place”.  But how many of us actually follow that advice?  During my lifetime, sometimes I had a place for everything, and other times I didn’t.

Guess which times were the most enjoyable for me?  Yep, the times I had a place for everything and actually kept my things where they belonged!

It might seem like taking the time to organize everything won’t be worth all of the work necessary to accomplish the task.  But it is!

Here are some of the benefits of an organized home:

  1. Organized items take up much less space than unorganized items
  2. No need to waste precious time looking for items, you know right where they are at all times.
  3. In an emergency, you know right where to find every item.  Think about how important it is to find your keys right away if someone got hurt!
  4. Organized areas create a more peaceful setting and has a calming effect on the mind
  5. An organized home is more enjoyable to look at and spend your time

Having a place for everything doesn’t need to be a monumental undertaking.  You can tackle the task as a weekend project and get your whole house or several rooms organized.  Or you can take things slower, working on 1 room or area of a room at a time.

You get to decide how organized you want to become.  I love being very organized!  If I had my way, everything in my home would be organized, even my socks!  But not everyone enjoys that level of organization.  And even though I would love to be that organized, it just wouldn’t be practical for my home.

For more information about organization, see the following posts:

How to Create a Place for Everything

Why Organization is Important

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Success Requires Action

The number one thing to remember about success is this:   success requires action!

You might have the perfect plan, and believe in all of your heart that you will succeed, but without some action/movement on your part, nothing is going to happen.

Sure, you can delegate out all of the responsibilities to someone else.  You could even hire someone, tell them what needs done, or tell them to figure out what needs done and let them delegate to other people.

But the point is, you did something.

A thousand mile journey starts with….  you guessed it, 1 step!

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Skill to make life a little easier.  Skills to make life more enjoyable!

Life is short, let’s not waste it!

Alex

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